Bullying is a known phenomenon. It is known because the news emphasize this kind of news. Very sad news, as those concerning young people who suicide to escape the slander to the insults of their comrades.
Prevention is essential in this area. Often a non-intervention, perhaps justified by the fact that the boy must learn to defend himself, or an ill-conceived intervention, such as that based on pure coercion, reinforce the phenomenon and its effects. Adequate preparation on the subject, instead, both in the family that in the school, and a subsequent coordinated intervention may be the key to the solution of the problem.
First of all bullying is an aggression that has nothing to do with those who are sometimes defined “stunts” or “capers”. When a person persistently and intentionally mocks, insults, slanders someone else up to the extreme of physical violence, there is a serious problem. Usually males are the ones who come to physical violence, while in females the mode is usually more subtle and indirect, but no less painful. It could be characterized by gossip, slander and grimaces.
The bully has a problem with anger and self-control. The bully is a person who doesn’t respect the others. If not stopped in time and re-educated such conduct can lead to psychopathology or deviance.
The victim of bullying can close himself off and to isolate himself, believing that the world is a dangerous place where it is impossible to trust in someone. This happens when the spectators, those who attend the violence of the dominant bully, don’t say anything.
For these reasons, prevention and early intervention are essential. The psychologist in schools is very important figure. The psychologist, in fact, can activate immediately the discussion and the coordination necessary to school and family to go in the same direction, protecting the the victims of bullying.
The initiatives are multiplying. They range from the brochures prepared by helplines for families and schools to educate and raise awareness on the issue. These helplines respond quickly and anonymously to the doubts and needs of all those who are victims of this phenomenon. Asking and inquiring is always important but, in this case, is also needed.
Dr. Cingolani’s Office is in Rome, near San Peter’s Church. If you want to contact her, you can write to this address: firstname.lastname@example.org